Sunday, May 28, 2006

 

We Have Baby Birds!

We have lived in our house a little over three years and have never had birds nest in our trees, but this year, we have .... baby crows. Okay, so they aren't the most wanted types of birds, but they are the smaller type of crows. The last week I have heard chirping, but didn't know where it was coming from. Yesterday, as I was doing some yard work, I heard them chirping loudly. I walked around looking up at the trees for nearly 10 minutes until I spotted the nest. It sounds like there are two or three chickies. Today, I saw mom and pop taking turns with big fat worms in their beaks. Everytime Heidi got close to the tree the mom or pop would fly away, even if they had food in their beaks. All they would do is circle around and land from a different direction. I hope to be able to get a picture of the nest in the next few days. Scott comes home tomorrow, so I hope to use the digital camera. So calming to listen to them and watch mama and papa work at non-stop feeding. It so neat to see the parents work endlessly to help their offspring become healthy to take their first leap of faith and fly.

...just in case they don't make it. I've weeded and cleaned the flower bed below. Waiting to take on an abandoned bird if I need to.

Saturday, May 27, 2006

 

Dog Damage

Today I was shopping at cooking.com to replace the soup pot Heidi pulled off the counter ( http://journeyofanadoption.blogspot.com/2006/04/it-has-been-while.htm ). Sheesh! The sucker cost $120 to buy another one. I don't think I paid that much for it. I believe it was on sale for more than half of that price. Still expensive. The pot isn't damaged where it alters the way food cooks, but the handle broke off. It is made of cast iron and fell 4 feet. There is nothing wrong with the pot, but the area where it broke off now has rust. It is just unsightly and I don't like it. I don't think there is a way to seal it. Oh well, I guess I'll have to live with it.

...and I was thinking of adopting another dog today. I was at Wally World and there was someone giving away free German Shepherd/Lab mix puppies. So cute and fluffy. Now, I am glad I didn't after seeing the damage from one dog. Besides, Scott is out of town and he probably would have divorced me for getting another pet without consulting him. Ha!Ha!

Friday, May 26, 2006

 

That was a bad spell

Wow! Last night was a bad spell. I have been under a lot of stress from work and the things that used to matter with having career, don't matter. All I want to do is be a parent. That is my ambition.

Today at work, everyone was leaving early and piling crap for me to do over before leaving at 5pm. (That is what happens when you have four people you are supporting -- no one know what everyone else is asking you to do) What the ?? That isn't fair. So, I left the office right after they left without starting any of the task. I really don't care what they say when I return to the office on Tuesday. When I told Scott what I did, his thoughts were I may be burned out. I've been doing two jobs for the last five months. All the managers expect me to give 100% although they said I shouldn't have to do it. I can't keep up at the fast pace any longer. Scott has told me I could resign from my position and we would be fine financially.

I don't like to see myself as a quiter, but at the same time, I don't like the way I feel. When I come home in the evening, I have to decompress W-A-Y too much. Long, hot bubble baths don't do it for me. I wake up from dreams drenched in sweat and a fast heart beat because my dreams are about about forgetting to do something at work. On Sundays I on the verge of tears because I dread going to work on Mondays. I don't think if I had stayed in my old position that the work conditions would have changed because I still would be "forced" to do both jobs. Finding an executive administrator is tough. Especially for The Big Boss because she wanted someone who had supported a VP or CEO for a large company, not a director or supporting a team from a small company. However, she decided to give me a chance when I showed interest. What the heck was I thinking?

Also, my old boss must be feeling pressure of not having me doing 100% accurate work and solely assigned to her because she has been really nasty toward me lately. She points out every single thing I do wrong and rarely tells me what I do right.

I am making a lot of mistakes at work. Mostly because I have to concentrate on quantity, not quality. I can't even attempt to do the job with excellence since I am burning my candle at both ends. I am seriously starting to doubt my ability to do the exec admin job because of the mistakes I am making.

I do have a goal to pay off my education loan I've been paying for 10 years. Time to really pay that sucker down. Scott says I can do it just as easily by working someplace else.

What I will do instead of complaining is to actually start do something about it. I am going to update my resume and start looking for another job.

Thursday, May 25, 2006

 

Severe Baby Blues

The baby blues came out of know where and I am hoping you don't mind if I share this with you. Scott is on a fishing trip with his brother in Louisana and I am by myself. Normally, I relish the thought of having the house to myself, but right now I am not so happy.

It is almost 11pm and I am crying. The thought that I should be a mother of a 2 month old has hit me hard. Damn hormones! I can't stop crying. I rhink the mourning of losing my son has hit me doubly hard tonight and Ian't share it with Scott or my mother because they would think I am crazy. I don't blame God for the conditions that make it a challenge to have children. It is purely genetic, I still can't help but feel sad.

My mother in law said she was visiting over the 4th of July week and I all I could think about was that it was at that time, a year ago, I knew I was pregnant. Don't get me wrong, I want her to visit, but it isnt' a happy time for me.

I feel like such a failure. Scott and I have been blessed with a very good income. I thought I could have it all. I NEVER thought I would be the one adopting.

I always knew adoption would be our first choice. It was. We tried the state foster adoption. I won't go into what happened, but we didn't complete our classes. We then decided to risk all odds nad have our own children. We knew what we were getting into. I just thought we could beat the odds. 75% chance of something going wrong, what was I thinking?

Hope! A miracle?

I know that some of the families who have experienced a loss or infertility know how I feel. I hate the way that the pain comes out of the blue. Right now, as I type, I am typing through tears.

]I hate the way I get stares from family members of pity or of bewilderment (what? They make all that money and what good does it do them if they can't have biological childrnen? )

I mourn from unborn son....my dreams of what our biological child would look like...and for the disappointment I have in myself because I can't give my husband a child.

I am not saying he is unhappy with adoption. He is gung-ho because he doesn' want to see me suffer, but I have not been able show him these tears. He is uncomfortable when I cry, although caring.

I will not even bring myself to decorate child's room because of the pain I had with my son. I was so exited because of the fear of another dissapointment. Although that is really slim. I don't think I'll start decorating until I get the referral.

Thnaks for listening. I think I will go wash my face. I haven't cried so hard since last late Septemeber (when we lost our son). Then again, I should probably let it out.

Sunday, May 21, 2006

 

Invisible Screen

Our HOA doesn't allow screen doors to the front entrance. A couple a days ago, we had a retractable door installed in the front and back of the house. The screens are difficult to see. I had to make sure our dogs realized they were there so they wouldn't run through them. What smart dogs. After letting them sniff the doors and nudge at the screen, they figured it out pretty fast. The only way I've been able to tell if the screen door is open is by looking for the black handles (see arrow). The doors "latch" with magnets. The door retracts with a push, so Scott is going to have to figure out how to secure a physical latch when the kiddo gets here. Heidi did figure out how to open the door, but after giving her a stern look and putting her in time out, she hasn't attempted it again. It is so nice to be able to open all the windows and doors without flies or mosquitos coming in.

























Scott also put up a purple martin/swallow house this weekend. It wasn't a simple project. In our area, we have two to four inches dirt, then it is pure limestone rock. So, he got a work out using a pick ax cutting through the bedrock. He then mixed and poured cement into the hole and held the pole for 30 minutes to let it cure a little. The pole is retractable so the birdhouse can be cleaned in the winter time. I have to admit that I AM NOT cleaning out the birdhouse. Gross! I know some of you know that HOA's can be sticklers for any little thing that is an infraction to the bylaws. So, I wonder what they will think of the height? We looked and there was not anything mentioned about birdhouses.

We also bought birdseed for the bird feeder. Those birds go through a 5 lb bag a feed every two weeks. So, we have to really ration it. Scott and I purchase the "no trash" seed which isn't cheap, but it keeps the funky seed plants from growing in the flower bed.

Now that the "bad" backyard neighbor with the yappy dog moved, we can enjoy our back porch. We introduced ourself to our new backyard neighbor when they moved in. They said they were getting a puppy and asked us to bring our dogs over. We decided that we will cut a hole in our fence and put in lattice panel so the puppy and Heidi can see each other.

By the way, I wanted to point out the pink flowers on the bush on the left hand side of the picture. That is an althea. This plant was made from a cutting of my great aunt's house who got it from her grandmother. Isn't that cool? Dad gave me the plant so he can pass down a bit of history. I have to say that was a big leap of faith on dad's part since I tend to kill plants. It almost died while in the pot, but as soon as Scott planted it, this baby took off. I do worry how it will do in the shade when the Monterey oak on the right and the Japanese maple on the left mature. The garendening guide says it needs 4-6 hours of full sun. However, Grammy has her plants growing under huge canopies of 60 year old pecan trees and they are doing fine.



Wednesday, May 17, 2006

 

Major Dust Bunnies

Over the weekend, our refrigerator was making a loud humming noise. Oh great! We just gave thousands of dollars to the adoption agency and our seven year old refrigerator decides to die. The refrigerator has been through one move.

Scott was 225 miles away fishing with buddies on the Texas coast. What was I to do? I got on the internet and found out the refrigerator probably had dirt on the coils. I followed the instructions and removed the ventilation grill and OH MY GOSH!!! There was a whole wad of dog fur and dirt on the coils to make a enourmous dust bunny. Icky!! I carefully vacuumed the coils and replaced the ventilation grill and the sound went away. No wonder the refrigerator side was causing items to freeze! I had turned the temperature down a few months ago without any success of fixing the icing problem.

Anyway, the coils are supposed to be vacuumed every month. The joys of home ownership!

Tuesday, May 16, 2006

 

Leaping Lizards

This is a picture of a little dude I found sunning itself on our patio table earlier this week. Heidi passed this fellow several times and didn't even realize it was watching her. I must have gotten a little too close when I was trying to take a picture because it scampered down the table and up the side of the house. When I took the picture the lizard jumped toward me. Needless to say, I screamed like a girl and almost dropped the camera. Heidi chased this poor thing until it ran up a tree. I think she would have eaten it if she was able to catch it. Gross!

I like to imagine that this guy is the offspring of the lizard I saved a few years ago. It was February and we had a hail storm. The lizard was knocked out of its winter hibernation spot and onto the ground. I put the lizard in a box. I would take it out and put it in a safe sunny spot during the day and bring it in at night. About four weeks later, I came home to empty box.

My husband says I have a really soft heart for many of our lawn critters. He laughs when I tell the gardeners to be careful cleaning the flower beds and to not hurt the toads. Hey! They eat the bad bugs! I also put the worms back onto the grass and mulch when they get flooded out after a rainstorm and washed on the driveway or sidewalk. Whenever we have a bird knock itself senseless from running into a window, I'll nurse it for a few hours while it recovers.

Monday, May 15, 2006

 

Replacement Car Parts

I paid off my car last month. WooHoo! I have a few things which need to be replaced. Well, really they don't, but I would like to get them fixed. My fog lamp on the driver side is cracked and the handle of the sunshade on my sunroof broke off from brittleness. I was told I have to replace the whole fog lamp housing and replace the complete sunshade. The total came out to $800 without labor. Completely outrageous! Why can't the car company sell small parts? What a rip off!

I don't how long I will keep the car. It has less than 50,000 miles on it. If we get a referral for one child, I'll keep the car. If we get two, then we'll probably trade the car in for a mini-van. I shudder when I say those words. I do NOT think of myself as a mad mom in a mini-van. I always envisioned my next car as a convertible, but somewhere between the five years of car ownership we wanted to start a family.

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

 

DTC this Friday

Yes! We will be DTC this Friday! Very exciting. Can I sleep now? I feel like I ran a marathon.

We received our package at 7:45am this morning at work. Our shipping department e-mailed me and told me "IT arrived". I got to work at 8:30. When I went to the shipping department, the guys were looking at their watches and told me I was an hour late. They were teasing because I made such a big deal yesterday to be looking for this package-- AND I arrive to work late. I couldn't sleep last night and overslept this morning!

I had to make copies of the Consulate authentication and then drive back home because I forgot our passport pictures. Needless to say my morning was spent driving around Austin. I walked back into the office around 12:00 noon. One of the directors was kinda miffed because we had two interview candidates come in (for my old job) at 11:00am and I wasn't there to walk them through security. Security didn't know who else to call since they couldn't find me. They tried calling my cell phone, but I forgot to take it with me and had left it in the office. Oh well. She'll get over it. Besides, I haven't actually told her our paperwork was completed. But the BIG cheese (who I report to now) knew what I was doing and she was okay with me leaving. The BIG cheese told me she felt really honored Scott and I would share our adoption news with her. What was really cool about her reaction was she didn't ask "So when is the baby getting here and how long are you going to take off work?" I think she knows I'll take care of finding a backup while I'm out on family leave.



Friday, May 05, 2006

 

SoS Certified

Thanks to Alexa at Paperchase, our Texas docs are certified. She has Fedex'ed Scott's Louisiana Certified doc along with our Texas certified docs to Cindy in Houston from ChinaDocs.Com. Cindy will take them on Monday to the Houston Chinese Consulate.

Next Monday must be a significant day. Last night, we had three terrible thunderstorms roll in. This morning, the alarm went off, and I sat up quickly and said "What time is it? Is it Monday?" I have no earthly idea why I asked if is Monday. I really was confused what day it was because the last 36 hours have almost been non-stop dossier prepping and very little sleep.

You would think blogging at 10pm would be the last thing I want to do right now. I am soooo tired that I can't sleep. I hate when that happens.

Thursday, May 04, 2006

 

What a Long Day

I spent most of the day compiling the dossier and making extra copies. Apparently three copies of each original document doesn't go far. I sent out of copies of our last copy of the marriage certificate for the Chinese Consulate in Houston. I didn't have enough time to go make another copy. I have a flatbed scanner and the largest size I can print is legal size. This doc is bigger. When the docs get back, I'll have to wrestle with paper contortionist to make a copy of the doc, the certification, and authentication paper. Fun!

By the way, my birth certificate is close to the 180 day (6 month) expiration date. By the time it gets to the Chinese Consulate it will be 166 days old. Just under the wire. In case you want to know how old your docs are there is a date difference calculator I found. While I was searching for it, Scott figured it by doing adding the dates of the month and doing some subtraction. Uhh...too complicated for me, thank you. What gets me is the fact they are strict about the age date of the documents. As if my birth date is going to change! If the person who notarized it at the clerk office has a commission date which hasn't expired, then what is concern?

Anyway, as I said I spent most of the day compiling the papers and multitasking with work e-mail and telephone. I then had the originals and copies couriered to Alexa at Paperchase here in Austin. She is so awesome! She is taking care of a lot of the leg work. After she get the docs certified on Friday, she is sending them to Cindy at MyChinaDocs in Houston. Alexa has actuallly has really gone beyond what her service does. I really appreciate her help. She has been in communication with me throughout the day and this evening. She has been very helpful in keeping me sane. Cindy has been awesome as well. I was afraid our docs wouldn't get delivered on Saturday because her office location closes at 12 noon. She called me at 7:30 and offered her home address. So, if our docs pass the scrutiny of the State of Texas and the Chinese Consulate, we have a good chance of being DTC May 12th!

GWCA needs to have the documents by Wednesday at 10:30am, but I don't think we are going to have them by then, but I am going to ask for a one day extension so I can give us some wiggle room (just in case the copier breaks while making copies of the authentication pages).


This weekend I need to go to Walgreens and print our life photos. We have 15 and we are trying to narrow it to 6-10.

I am holding my breath hoping everything goes well without a hitch. Am I asking too much?

Wednesday, May 03, 2006

 

Scraping Myself Off the Ceiling - Reality Hits

I told Scott I'll take the docs to SOS on Thursday and he could take them to the Houston Chinese Consultate. Then reality hit and we checked our work schedules Frack! I have a full work schedule this week and he has a full schedule next week. He said he could take the paperwork to Houston this Friday, but I don't think we are going to have everything done tomorrow because 1.) WE have to get the application letter and "copy" of the I-171H notorized. "WE" have opposite schedules and only see each other at night. We have to be together to get the docs notarized. 2) Oh! And I have to go shopping tomorrow to go buy awards for my department's big meeting then take them to go get engraved. The engraving takes two business days. Somehow, life just gets in the way. 3.) take the docs to GWCA to review before going to SOS. 3) Then taking the time to go down to the SOS office. I can't accomplish that in one day.

I also realized I haven't put together our lifestyle photos. They are all digital, so I have to put them on my camera disk and get them processed at Walgreens or CVS.
Maybe I should just give up on trying to DTC on May 12th and be content with May 19th?

Well, Scott just came up to me and said "honey, I know you are stressed about work and I am stressed about work. Pay the extra fees. Call a mobile notary to come to the house afterhours and have the docs to the state SOS and Chinese consulate couriered. If you have to hire a courier to drive from Austin to Houston to save a day, do it." His thought is that is that the courier fees are a drop in the bucket compared to the other cost of the adoption. Gosh! I love that man! He can be bullheaded and tight fisted with his money, but to see me unhappy brings out the best in him. He knows I don't pout to get my way.

Maybe we will make the May 12th date. What an fantastic "mother's day" gift.



 

It's Here!


I went to the mailbox and we received our brown envelope!!
















Monday, May 01, 2006

 

Darn Hormones

Gosh! I am so hormonal today. I ran across a website of a China adoption video and I was bawling my head off as I watched it. We are not even DTC, but these videos keep me trucking along and get me through the rough days. My husband says I am going to reflect on these blog entries after we get our child and wish for quiet time.

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